Now that we're on CouchDB 3.3 we can choose to use their prometheus endpoint: https://docs.couchdb.org/en/stable/api/server/common.html#get--_node-node-name-_prometheus
There are some configuration options we may need to tweak to enable it properly: https://docs.couchdb.org/en/stable/config/misc.html#configuration-of-prometheus-endpoint
I had a quick scan of the metrics and there are heaps of them but they don't look very useful.