Ignore shared cache responses from earlier boot attempts

[snaury]

Changelog entry

Fix process crashing with assertion when follower promotes to leader or reattaches while booting. Fixes #17469.

Changelog category

• Bugfix

Description for reviewers

Ignore responses to requests from earlier boot attempts (which may not match later requests anyway), and ignore responses after the boot finishes.

[github-actions]

⚪ 2025-08-27 15:22:21 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-release-asan for 4cc6bfe has started.
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:22:36 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:25:55 UTC ya make is running...
⚫ 2025-08-27 15:46:20 UTC Check cancelled

[github-actions]

⚪ 2025-08-27 15:22:22 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-relwithdebinfo for 4cc6bfe has started.
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:22:36 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:26:02 UTC ya make is running...
⚫ 2025-08-27 15:46:16 UTC Check cancelled

[github-actions]

🟢 2025-08-27 15:27:49 UTC The validation of the Pull Request description is successful.

[github-actions]

⚪ 2025-08-27 15:47:43 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-relwithdebinfo for 176f60c has started.
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:47:56 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:51:14 UTC ya make is running...
🟡 2025-08-27 17:24:08 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. Going to retry failed tests...

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
38056	35305	0	4	2713	34

⚪ 2025-08-27 17:28:04 UTC ya make is running... (failed tests rerun, try 2)
🟢 2025-08-27 17:43:34 UTC Tests successful.

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
268 (only retried tests)	238	0	0	0	30

🟢 2025-08-27 17:43:42 UTC Build successful.
🟢 2025-08-27 17:44:06 UTC ydbd size 2.3 GiB changed* by +87.3 KiB, which is < 100.0 KiB vs main: OK

ydbd size dash	main: 04d7c1c	merge: 176f60c	diff	diff %
ydbd size	2 434 167 848 Bytes	2 434 257 264 Bytes	+87.3 KiB	+0.004%
ydbd stripped size	509 888 392 Bytes	509 908 488 Bytes	+19.6 KiB	+0.004%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}

[github-actions]

⚪ 2025-08-27 15:50:32 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-release-asan for 176f60c has started.
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:50:35 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2025-08-27 15:53:54 UTC ya make is running...
🟡 2025-08-27 17:58:26 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. This fail is not in blocking policy yet

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
15419	14955	0	111	320	33

🟢 2025-08-27 17:59:52 UTC Build successful.
🟡 2025-08-27 18:00:21 UTC ydbd size 4.0 GiB changed* by +158.0 KiB, which is >= 100.0 KiB vs main: Warning

ydbd size dash	main: 04d7c1c	merge: 176f60c	diff	diff %
ydbd size	4 277 622 568 Bytes	4 277 784 360 Bytes	+158.0 KiB	+0.004%
ydbd stripped size	1 483 448 600 Bytes	1 483 515 960 Bytes	+65.8 KiB	+0.005%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}