rewrite StatefulSDPAFusion transformation using new symbolic API

[evkotov]

Details:

• rewrite StatefulSDPAFusion transformation
• Fix PassConfig State Management in SymbolicOptimizations

Problem

SymbolicOptimizations::run_on_model() disabled EliminateSqueeze and EliminateUnsqueeze passes in shared PassConfig without properly restoring their original state. This broke subsequent transformations like NgramFusion that depend on these
passes for symbolic pattern matching.

Root Cause

The original restore logic was incomplete - PassConfig has three states (Default, Disabled, Enabled) but the code only handled two, incorrectly converting Default state to Enabled state after restoration.

Solution

• Added PassConfig::restore_default() method to properly restore passes to default state
• Enhanced SymbolicOptimizations to track and restore exact original state of each pass
• Added exception safety to guarantee state restoration even on errors

Benefits

• Fixes NgramFusion and other transformations that rely on symbolic information
• Enables safe sharing of PassConfig between multiple transformations
• Maintains all existing functionality while preventing state pollution
• Exception-safe state restoration

Tickets:

• 170030

[Copilot]

Pull Request Overview

Refactors the StatefulSDPAFusion transformation to use OpenVINO's new symbolic API instead of the deprecated gen_pattern utilities. This modernizes the pattern matching implementation while maintaining the same functionality.

• Replaces gen_pattern-based pattern definitions with symbolic API equivalents
• Updates the transformation manager to use SymbolicOptimizations instead of the basic Manager
• Adds validation for concat axis consistency between K and V tensors

[praasz]

What about the make a copy of config at L:212:
const auto pass_config = m_manager->get_pass_config();

then disable some passes on this copy, in case of error the restoration of original pass config should not be required.

[evkotov]

Unfortunately, there is no method Manager::set_pass_config. Should we add this method?

[praasz]

The set pass should not be require the idea was to refactor like:

    // make a copy of config
    const auto pass_config = m_manager->get_pass_config();
    
    // disable passes on copy only
    pass_config->disable<EliminateSqueeze>();
    pass_config->disable<EliminateUnsqueeze>();
    
    auto result = m_manager->run_passes(m);
    
    ov::remove_skip_invalidation_rti(m);
    return result;

but maybe there is something missed and it will not work correctly

[evkotov]

merged #31709 instead of this